Ride or Die!

Dear Blog...

I ran into some old friends today - not old in age but old as in steady, long term, continuous, ride or die, thick or thin, up or down, for better or worse kind of friends.  The kind whenever our paths cross, our hearts shiver with excitement and flood with memories.  Today our kindred spirits rose in agreement as we conversed, jumping in before the other could finish, trying to catch up on all our new developments in that very moment between the Keurig coffee maker demonstrations and the housewares (by the way, that chai latte really gave me life!)  Shame on our husbands and boo's whenever they happen to be with us - it must be torture for them to have to wait on us - uhm, oh well - they may never understand the power of the girl bond.  I bet they be thinking, oh damn - not again. Lol.

left to right:  Me & sisters Sherry & Judy - Forever Friends!
 

On a rather serious note though, I was going through a very rough patch with my husband's sudden onset of pancreatitis in 2006 when Sherry called to let me know their mom, Ms. Julia was in the hospital.  I planned to visit her but before I could, my husband's condition worsened and I couldn't bear to leave his side.  At that time, Sherry called to tell me their mom passed and gave me the date of the funeral.  I felt really bad and expressed my condolences with all intentions of attending the funeral. As the day approached, however, my husband took another turn for the worse, slipped into a coma and was rushed to ICU where he later died before my eyes. I thought my world had ended!  Although I was in a state of shock, detachment and incoherency, I will never forget the support I received and felt from this family at my husband's funeral and at the burial.  They didn't hold it against me that I wasn't able to attend their mom's service but they were compassionate and understanding, sympathetic and sincere.  As fate would have it, their mom and my late husband are now resting just a few feet apart.

 

So, what I'm saying is like our situation, you don't know when life will serve you a platter that will turn your world upside down and you need your ride or die around.

 

It's those situational moments that differentiate the casual friends from the ride or die.

Whatever the case may be, cherish them because real friendships are priceless assets that appreciate with the test of time...Sherry and Judy are just two of mine. 

 

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Thanks for the company.

 

 

TGBTG        

 

It's Time to Move!

Dear Blog,

Moving day is here and it comes with a heightened sense of anticipation or perhaps a crippling sense of anxiety, second-guessing and discombobulating thoughts-thoughts that we've wrestled with way too long.  We admit, our current situation is no longer serving us - we're cramped, the environment is no longer conducive for growth, what started out as a high equity situation has now depreciated. What used to have curb-appeal is now an eyesore, what used to breathe life into us has now sucked us dry!  The passion we once had has now dwindled to a mere force of action--we are going through the motions without purpose or passion, just choo-chooing along, perpetrating and emulating.

No, this is not a physical move, it's much more - it's your life honey and your message to the world!  So why then is making a decision about your life, your spirituality, your career, your relationship, your family, your church, your children, your parents, your livelihood so complicated!  I'll tell you why -  because we fear the unknown and we fear the judgment of others.  Bump them!  Do you boo!  Make that change!  I can't tell you what that is for you but I will tell you this - change is inevitable and if you don't make it on your own, change has a way of creeping up on us by force and God knows that is one of the most excruciating, uncomfortable and agonizing places to find yourself in.  Once you come out of it, you're so beat up and stripped that all you want to do is breathe - and nothing more.

One thing I know for sure about my life is that "it didn't go as planned" and today I have no regrets because my situation has flipped - my loss has turned out to be my gain for I gained new life but it wasn't without struggle.  I have a greater and deeper appreciation for those things that others take for granted; I have a new love and a new lease; a new passion and new adventures, I'm reading and writing and blogging and loving and living and it feels so damn good!  So go ahead take that step - start packing, de-cluttering, renovating, redecorating, downsizing, upsizing and doing the work.  Tell your past, "I no longer live there" and move on -  a new neighborhood awaits you!

 

Today's blog was inspired by You

 

Thanks for the company!

TGBTG



Vision Board Video Updates

Hello Everyone, thanks for checking back in.  My planning team came together to make our Vision Boards prior to our scheduled Vision Board Party, here are some pictures and clips:

 Vision Board Project Introduction 

Clorissa's nicely done video wouldn't upload so here's a pic
 

The Dining Room became our Workstation

 

  Terri's Vision Board Presentation

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"Where there is no vision..."

 

Coming Up:  Nickel & Dime Designs - New Butcher Block Counter Top (as shown above) and Lanterns you can make yourself